How Obedient have I been this month?
Hey Lovelies,
You will recall not long ago that I introduced you to the Obedience app, the wonderful BDSM habit-tracking app that I am now proudly affiliated with. A lot of people have clicked my link to check out the app, so I thank you for your curiosity already.
As part of using the app, I thought it would be really fun to share with you some of how my dynamic with Master Levi looks. How obedient I’ve been to him. My top completed habits, my least completed habits, the rewards I’ve received, the punishments, and how I plan to improve.
Alright, let’s get into it!
What Is Obedience?
The Obedience app is a habit-tracking and accountability tool designed to help kinky people who enjoy structure, discipline, and goal-focused routines within their BDSM relationships. It allows Dominants to create custom tasks, rules, and daily expectations for their submissives, then track completion over time through streaks, statistics, and progress reports. Many people use it individually for productivity, self-improvement, or personal development (yes, you can do that too!), while others incorporate it into recognised power-exchange or D/s dynamics as a way to formalise agreements and deepen their relationships.
While Obedience offers a simple, free version, the Preium version offers bonus features like unlimited (instead of five) habits, photo proof (for those subs who like to pretend they did as they were told!), discreet mode and more. Ideal for those whose privacy isn’t guaranteed!
And that’s not all! Obedience allows you to add multiple Dominants and submissives, and has an option for Switches too. In a Household? Obedience can cater for you! You can also integrate Embrace with Obedience and reward your submissive for journalling regularly.
Whether used solo or collaboratively, the goal is the same: consistent action, measurable progress, and a healthy, happy bond.
What Are Habits?
The Obedience app comes with several default habits that you can use, but you can also add and use your own. Preset habits include things like journalling, meditating or texting your partner good morning, but also includes things like sharing a fantasy with your Dominant, or sending them a photo in a pose that they have requested. I have things like housework, blog work (yes, I get rewards for working hard!) and pet care, along with a variety of self-care habits. Don’t forget, if you want more than five habits, you’ll need the Premium plan!
How Do Rewards & Punishments Work?
Rewards and punishments don’t have to be gaining or losing points, that’s a preset. A Dominant (or submissive) can add their own rewards/punishments ideas, and each habit can be custom set to earn its own reward if completed, or punishment if not. For example, a submissive could earn a small bar of chocolate (rather than points) for eating five portions of fruit or vegetables in a day, or ten strokes of a hairbrush to their bottom if they fail. You can absolutely set up the system with whatever rewards and punishments you both like.
How Much Does Obedience Cost?
Obedience costs £6.99/$6.99 per month, but you can save more than 50% with the annual plan at £29.99/$29.99 per year. Plus, you can enjoy an extra 20% off the annual plan with my affiliated link below — so in all, you’ll be paying just £2/$2 per month! Do be aware that each person in the relationship will need their own Premium account in order to use all of the features.
My Top 3 Completed Habits
1. Blog Work
Like I said above, I get rewards for working hard, and my work is important! Master Levi thinks so too, so of course he makes sure my hard work is paid off somewhere!
2. Pet Care
I always make sure Huxley is well looked after, as he looks after me. Actually, this doesn’t just cover Huxley — it extends to our tropical and cold fish, too. I’m like the Snow White of the BDSM world.
3. Eating Breakfast/Lunch
When you can get a sore butt for skipping lunch, you stop skipping lunch. Also, I found a really tasty breakfast smoothie recipe a few weeks ago (with thanks to the help of ChatGPT), so I’m now enjoying a smoothie with some granola for breakfast… and getting two of my five a day at the same time!
My Top 3 Least Completed Habits
1. 20-minute workout
Ugh… I’ll admit it, I’m terrible for skipping workouts. I have work to do, pets to look after, housework to do, sleep to get. Anyone mind if I just… don’t?
2. Drink 1 litre water
I realised that I wasn’t drinking enough water very recently when I kept experiencing digestive issues, and though I have now installed a small water storer in my home office (right next to my desk!), it remains to be seen whether that will be enough to encourage me to hydrate more frequently. Here’s hoping!
3. Tidy your desk
Again, I’ll admit it, my desk is diabolical — it’s often a collection of dishes and scraps of paper with ideas written on them. I’m supposed to tidy it at the end of each day but… it’s too often that that doesn’t happen.
My Most Received Rewards
1. Massage
After days of typing and housework I tend ache, and what better than a nice back massage? I’m very lucky in that Master Levi delivers a wonderful back massage, and he knows I’m too happy to cllaim them as a reward for my hard work.
2. Orgasm from Daddy
It took me a while to consider this a “reward” for me, but after Master masturbated me once, I started to learn to love it, want it, crave it even. It felt wrong, that an independent woman would want to depend on her husband for her sexual pleasure, but it became a thing for me. Now, it’s something that I’ve learned to work for.
3. Cock worship
This list just goes further and further down the rabbithole, doesn’t it? Yes, okay, sucking my husband’s cock is something of a reward for me. I love worshipping cock. There, I said it.
My Most Received Punishments
1. Explanation
There’s not much I hate more than having to explain why I didn’t do something — Master knows I would much rather pull my toenails out with a pair of pliers — but ahh! Sweet, sweet accountability. It’s actually physically painful having to tell your Dom why you didn’t do the thing you said you would do, even without them laying a finger on you.
2. Spanking
I earned a total of nine spanks this month, all of them for skipping lunch. That’s three accounts of “eh, I’m not hungry”. Oops.
What I Plan To Improve Next Month
I know I need to improve my self-care game. I spend a lot of time looking after others, our home, our pets, my blog, but I always put myself last. I know that annoys Master Levi too, so, I need to learn to stop putting others first quite so often, and start looking after myself a little bit more. We shall see whether I managed it next month!
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Stay safe & have fun,
