How Obedient have I been lately?

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Hey Lovelies,

You will recall not long ago that I introduced you to the Obedience app, the wonderful BDSM habit-tracking app that I am now proudly affiliated with. A lot of people have clicked my link to check out the app, so I thank you for your curiosity already.

As part of using the app, I thought it would be really fun to share with you some of how my dynamic with Master Levi looks. How obedient I’ve been to him lately. My top completed habits this past month, my least completed habits, the rewards I’ve received, the punishments, and how I plan to improve.

Alright, let’s get into it!

What Is Obedience?

The Obedience app is a habit-tracking and accountability tool designed to help kinky people who enjoy structure, discipline, and goal-focused routines within their BDSM relationships. It allows Dominants to create custom tasks, rules, and daily expectations for their submissives, then track completion over time through streaks, statistics, and progress reports. Many people use it individually for productivity, self-improvement, or personal development (yes, you can do that too!), while others incorporate it into recognised power-exchange or D/s dynamics as a way to formalise agreements and deepen their relationships.

While Obedience offers a simple, free version, the Preium version offers bonus features like unlimited (instead of five) habits, photo proof (for those subs who like to pretend they did as they were told!), discreet mode and more. Ideal for those whose privacy isn’t guaranteed!

And that’s not all! Obedience allows you to add multiple Dominants and submissives, and has an option for Switches too. In a Household? Obedience can cater for you! You can also integrate Embrace with Obedience and reward your submissive for journalling regularly.

Whether used solo or collaboratively, the goal is the same: consistent action, measurable progress, and a healthy, happy bond.

What Are Habits?

The Obedience app comes with several default habits that you can use, but you can also add and use your own. Preset habits include things like journalling, meditating or texting your partner good morning, but also includes things like sharing a fantasy with your Dominant, or sending them a photo in a pose that they have requested. I have things like housework, blog work (yes, I get rewards for working hard!) and pet care, along with a variety of self-care habits. Don’t forget, if you want more than five habits, you’ll need the Premium plan!

How Do Rewards & Punishments Work?

Rewards and punishments don’t have to be gaining or losing points, that’s a preset. A Dominant (or submissive) can add their own rewards/punishments ideas, and each habit can be custom set to earn its own reward if completed, or punishment if not. For example, a submissive could earn a small bar of chocolate (rather than points) for eating five portions of fruit or vegetables in a day, or ten strokes of a hairbrush to their bottom if they fail. You can absolutely set up the system with whatever rewards and punishments you both like. 

How Much Does Obedience Cost?

Obedience costs £6.99/$6.99 per month, but you can save more than 50% with the annual plan at £29.99/$29.99 per year. Plus, you can enjoy an extra 20% off the annual plan with my affiliated link below, so you’ll be paying £24/$24 per year, or just £2/$2 per month! Do be aware that each person in the relationship will need their own Premium account in order to use all of the features.

And now, onto May…

My Top 3 Completed Habits

1. Eat Breakfast by 11:30AM

What’s the sercret to making sure you eat breakfast every day? Finding a breakfast you love! For me that’s a pot of low-fat Greek yogurt with honey, a satsuma, low sugar Belvita breakfast biscuits and a cup of tea. I’ve got protein, fibre, 1 of my 5 a day and fluids — and I actually enjoy it!

2. Shower

I’ll be honest, I used to be an evening shower person and quite often it would be “I’m too tired, ‘ll have it tomorrow” for two or three days in a row. Well, not anymore! Master Levi and I have morning showers now, so it’s not “I’ll have one tomorrow” anymore, it’s just… done!

3. “Top Gun” (fitness) Training

Talking about enjoying yourself, I love my “Top Gun” fitness training, named thusly as a nod to Valkyries’ “Cadet”. and the love for all things naval that the Admiral and I share! For years I hated working out and fitness — I have inner ear issues, so for me, floor exercises often left me feeling very sick, and because of my chronic pain, things like jogging or running were no good for my body. So I’d accepted myself as essentially fat and useless, but behold! With the the help of ChatGPT (and the loving support of Master Levi and Admiral Snookiebear), I was able to work out a fitness programme that does work for me, and that I do enjoy! It starts every morning with five minutes marching in place, then I have a fifteen-minute, no-weights circuit training session in the afternoon. I did add a ten-minute dancing around session in the evening as well but I realised that sometimes I’m putting too much pressure on myself. If I do three moderately active chores instead of dancing around? That still counts!

Oh, and I swim on Tuesdays instead, because it’s important for a cadet to have these life skills 😉

My Top 3 Least Completed Habits

1. “Day Is Done”

Alright, so this one is going to take some explaining: “day is done” is the first line of the well-known bugle call, Taps. However, if you didn’t know, then Taps isn’t just performed at commemorative services in the U.S. Navy: more broadly, it’s used to signal the end of the military day. If you didn’t also know, then it’s sung traditionally at the end of a Scouting or Guiding gathering. And I, a former Girl Guide, happen to know Taps quite well.

So for me, “Day Is Done” is kind of a cheeky play on the original idea: it’s my desk-tidying habit at the end of my blogging day, Lately I have been so busy, I haven’t always gotten around to tidying my desk!

2. General Tidy

I tried, really I did, but this has been another back-to-back month for me. On the plus side I have a great three-part collaboration lined up, and I’ve really enjoyed working with my Dutch reader, B, on his prototype to help people with disabilities make sex more comfortable and practical. In terms of my home though? Whew, it has suffered! The heatwave didn’t help, but I’m going to apply thermal control film to all of my windows to make my rooms as cool as possible in future!

3. 20 Minute Nap

Ha! Now this is one of those ones… I average about six hours sleep at night, proclaim to be a biphasic sleeper, which means that I’m supposed to get my head down in the afternoon (it’s even on my schedule) for an extra 20-60 minutes sleep, Buut… my Daddy and Daddie are used to me being a tenacious little minx, so if there’s something I want to get up and do, I’m probably going to get up and do it! Unfortunately that probably now means I can no longer post on the Lovehoney Forum during my nap hour because ol’ Grey Flags (the Admiral) is very adept at monitoring my activity!

My Most Received Rewards

1. Orgasm

Okay, this one comes with a kind of funny story that Lovehoney Forum members will be at least partly familiar with. Last week I (who has the higher sex drive) mastubated in the morning whilst Master Levi was off work – as I’m allowed to do – only this time, Master wasn’t happy about it: he said he felt left out (he was asleep when I did it). So that led to a slight rift between us, then a conversation to clarify exactly what the rules on masturbation were.

Now, my independent ass is not a fan of asking for permission to touch my own body, so when this whole “being left out” thing came about, I was dogged determined that I wasn’t suddenly going to start asking for permission to touch my own body. It’s my body, and If I want to give it pleasure, I damn well will – after all, he masturbates sometimes, too!

But I agreed that sometimes I will try and initiate, as hard as that will be for me after years of him not wanting sex as often as I do. I said I was not asking for permission to masturbate though, and Master teased me about it, so in a bid to have the last laugh, I made “orgasm” a reward on Obedience. The price? One point.

So now he’s de facto got his “orgasm control” thing that Domkind seem to so love, and I’m still having plenty of orgasms. Don’t hate the player, hate the game 😉

2. Chocolate

I’ve been super spoilt to a bar of Dairy Milk Bsicoff this month because Daddy knows I love all things Biscoff. Of course it didn’t last!

3. Cock Worship

Why I ever made this a reward, I do not know, and who it’s a reward for… Actually, that’s where sub psychology trips us up, because Master knows I would soon beg for it if he said I never have to suck his cock again. We submissives really are our own worst enemy sometimes.

Of course, now I think about it, I’ll have to write about that session sometime for my Full Ten Shades members….

My Most Received Punishments

1. Explanations

I still don’t enjoy these, especially not when my “explanation” is usually the same — “I didn’t have time”. I did have time, but I slso know what that means, which then makes me pause and reflect on why I “didn’t have time” for those things. I often don’t like my answer.

2. Spanking

My ass has hurt this month. With a total od 73 spanks delivered, and some part of me craving the kiss of Master’s belt. I’ve definitely remembered what it means to submit. I have yet to actually ask for the belt, though…

3. Lose Points

Failure to complete some tasks does cost my points, things like not drinking enough water, not relaxing in the evening, and not taking care of myself all cost me points. It can be a bit of a gut-punch when I realised why I can’t afford the rewards I want.

What I Plan To Improve Next Month

The flat has been horrendously warm lately, and I need to find a way that my submission is not affected by the weather. The thermal control film will help, but as the world warms up, I need to make sure my submission doesn’t cool off!

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Until next time!

Stay safe & have fun,

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