How Obedient have I been lately?

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Hey Lovelies,

You will recall not long ago that I introduced you to the Obedience app, the wonderful BDSM habit-tracking app that I am now proudly affiliated with. A lot of people have clicked my link to check out the app, so I thank you for your curiosity already.

As part of using the app, I thought it would be really fun to share with you some of how my dynamic with Master Levi looks. How obedient I’ve been to him lately. My top completed habits this past month, my least completed habits, the rewards I’ve received, the punishments, and how I plan to improve.

Alright, let’s get into it!

What Is Obedience?

The Obedience app is a habit-tracking and accountability tool designed to help kinky people who enjoy structure, discipline, and goal-focused routines within their BDSM relationships. It allows Dominants to create custom tasks, rules, and daily expectations for their submissives, then track completion over time through streaks, statistics, and progress reports. Many people use it individually for productivity, self-improvement, or personal development (yes, you can do that too!), while others incorporate it into recognised power-exchange or D/s dynamics as a way to formalise agreements and deepen their relationships.

While Obedience offers a simple, free version, the Preium version offers bonus features like unlimited (instead of five) habits, photo proof (for those subs who like to pretend they did as they were told!), discreet mode and more. Ideal for those whose privacy isn’t guaranteed!

And that’s not all! Obedience allows you to add multiple Dominants and submissives, and has an option for Switches too. In a Household? Obedience can cater for you! You can also integrate Embrace with Obedience and reward your submissive for journalling regularly.

Whether used solo or collaboratively, the goal is the same: consistent action, measurable progress, and a healthy, happy bond.

What Are Habits?

The Obedience app comes with several default habits that you can use, but you can also add and use your own. Preset habits include things like journalling, meditating or texting your partner good morning, but also includes things like sharing a fantasy with your Dominant, or sending them a photo in a pose that they have requested. I have things like housework, blog work (yes, I get rewards for working hard!) and pet care, along with a variety of self-care habits. Don’t forget, if you want more than five habits, you’ll need the Premium plan!

How Do Rewards & Punishments Work?

Rewards and punishments don’t have to be gaining or losing points, that’s a preset. A Dominant (or submissive) can add their own rewards/punishments ideas, and each habit can be custom set to earn its own reward if completed, or punishment if not. For example, a submissive could earn a small bar of chocolate (rather than points) for eating five portions of fruit or vegetables in a day, or ten strokes of a hairbrush to their bottom if they fail. You can absolutely set up the system with whatever rewards and punishments you both like. 

How Much Does Obedience Cost?

Obedience costs £6.99/$6.99 per month, but you can save more than 50% with the annual plan at £29.99/$29.99 per year, or 29% with the quarterly plan at £14.99/$14.99. Plus, you can enjoy an extra 20% off all plans with my affiliate link! Do be aware that each person in the relationship will need their own Premium account in order to use all of the features.

And now, onto this month…

My Top 3 Completed Habits

1. Let In The Love

Some of my habits have really stupid names — because I can be a stupid person sometimes — and this is one of them. This is just a reminder to myself to open the curtains and windows, because lately in the UK, it has been hot!

2. Pet Care

This is everything: taking Huxley outside, feeding him, feeding the fish, cleaning their tank, the works. Systems help me look after me, and they help me make sure our pets are all looked after, too.

3. Remembering To Eat

In also at 57% this month is eating breakfast and lunch. Now, in retrospect it’s probably higher than that, but once again, somebody doesn’t always remember to check in!

My Top 3 Least Completed Habits

1. Top Gun Training

It’s not that I don’t enjoy my new workout regime, it’s just that these past few weeks, my schedule has been to shot. I have since revised it and my mornings at least have a much better flow now, but that’s not going to change my stats for this month!

2. Evening Relaxation

Nope, I’m still really bad at clocking off and relaxing. I’m better at looking after myself in the evening now, which is something, but getting enough rest? That could still use some work!

3. Journal

According to Embrace, I wrote in my shared journal just three times this month. That’s… not good.

My Most Received Rewards

1. Orgasm

I boxed myself in here, because I thought by adding orgasms as a reward, I had the last laugh (about not having to ask for permission to have them). Well, the… delightful individual that I am married to completely flipped that script, and now he doesn’t mind that I don’t ask; I basically have to work to wank! Worst, I don’t have permissions to delete it, and he sure as hell isn’t going to, so that backfired on me… BIG TIME!

2. Sweet Treat

This is a new addition, that covers all sort of things (but not that thing!). It’s been too hot for chocolate lately, so instead, I asked for an ice cream from the ice cream van. I hadn’t had a 99 in so long, though they’re not 99p anymore!

3. Back Rubs From Daddy

Daddy has magic hands, and I have dicky shoulders, particularly my left which has always been a it crunchy ever since I was in a near road collision several years ago (driver had to slam the brake and my shoulder suffered as a result). Sometimes, when I overdo it, my trapezius muscles seize up. Daddy’s magic touch gets right in there and undoes all the knots.

My Most Received Punishments

1. Exlanations

Sometimes my explations are reasonable and justifiable. For example, “I didn’t put Huxley to bed because you did it” or “I didn’t open the windows because you’d aready done it”, those are reasonable. But “I didn’t take my daily medications because I forgot” or “I didn’t stop and relax at 10PM because there were still chores to do”, those aren’t justifiable and reflect me in a bad light. Sometimes explanations are the worst punishment because they make me hear where I’m fucking up, and I don’t even like how I sound. I can hear my shortcomings — distracted, perfectionist — and I hate that. I know Daddy has considered changing the punishment on my daily medications habit to a spanking as well, because perhaps a sore bottom will help me remember them more often.

2. Spanking

Speaking of, this month has had quite a few of them! 140 to be exact. Some of them have come from not checking in on time to avoid them, but that’s not a reason not to get them. After all, I’m quick enough to log when the neighbour’s chatting has gotten in the way of my submission.

What I Plan To Improve Next Month

Time management. I’m doing better, but I’m still not where I could be! Hopefully next month I’ll be reporting that I’m getting more stuff done — and I’m finally taking time off to relax!

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Until next time!

Stay safe & have fun,

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