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NB. The language in the book is oriented towards heterosexual couples. However, to make these sex positions enjoyable for all, I will be using gender-neutral language in the appropriate sections below.
Hello Lovelies and welcome to our next sex position review!
Not so long ago, Master Levi and I purchased a book of sex positions from Lovehoney. Ihe idea was two-fold: to give us some new hot sex positions to try, but also to give me something to write about and share on my blog. As a disabled person, some sex positions can be tricker than others. So, we wanted to share with you which sex positions rocked our world, and which ones were dropped from it!
So without further ado, let’s check out the next position – Doggy Style!
Why This Position:
Doggy style is a sex position that allows for deep penetration and a more primal feel for a quick round of passion. There is nothing much romantic about it and to be honest, nor does there need to be! Doggy style is absolutely perfect when your most carnal desires have taken over and you and your partner require some sweet relief. Get ready, let’s…
Assume The Position:
The receiving partner kneels on the bed or floor and lowers themselves onto their forearms. From here, the giving partner can kneel behind and penetrate the receiving partner and thrust as fast or as slow as both partners want, or are comfortable with.
Enjoy a bit of degradation play? Have the receiving partner push themselves back against the giving partner for their pleasure. This reinforces in the receiving partner both how desperate they are to please their partner, and how desperately they want to be pleased. Don’t forget to include a bit of verbal humiliation too!
His Perspective
Matt says that he likes that doggy style sex makes him feel “animalistic and Dominant”, he likes that it allows him to control my pleasure and he gets to decide when both he and I both get to orgasm. He also likes how easy it is to pull out and cum outside of me, and watch and hear my internal battle when he knows I want nothing more than to be full of his seed. He calls doggy style his “preferred” position for sex in BDSM, but wholeheartedly agrees that there is nothing remotely sweet or sensual about it!
Matt aiso said that it is really important for Dominants with disabled submissives to exercise a duty of care towards their submissive, and don’t endanger them physically or emotionally for the sakes of rough sex. “Have fun”, he says, “but make sure you’re both having fun!”
Her Perspective
I almost feel like I’ve been forced to overplay my hand with this review – I love, love, love doggy style! For the submissive in me, this position really enhances the submissive feeling of quite literally “receiving” my partner, and the shame that it carries to allow myself, a known strong and confident woman, to be taken and bred in this way. Matt likes to spank me in this position as well, just to drive home how “bad” I am being, and I’d be lying if I said that feeling his body against my freshly reddened ass didn’t only serve to turn me on more. I also like it when we really turn up the heat and incorporate a butt plug for some double penetration play. Hey, what? Sometimes a girl likes feeling doubly full…
Sometimes I will fight my (typically all-encompassing and rather earth-shattering) orgasm in this position, I guess because for me. coming would feel akin to a complete surrender and I still have to maintain at least an iota of control – it’s what people would expect of me, after all! So then Matt will slow right down until I no longer don’t want to come – I need to come, and then he’ll make me beg and work for it! It’s debasing for me and rather rewarding for him, and he’s all too proud of himself every time he manages to break my submissive will!
Overall Verdict
A thousand times yes, but only for those quickies that are more about sating carnal lust, or are about some hot and heavy domination play. Deliciously hot, but definitely not the sweetest sex position out there! 5/5.
Special Considerations
I have hypersensitivity in my right wrist, so I find it helpful to put a pillow under my forearms and lean more on my elbows than on my hands. Also, I have chronic pain in my knee, so a comfortable bed or soft surface beneath me is a must. Lastly, and as should be common sense, but communication and observation. I am prone to losing my balance, because of my ataxia, so some overly vigorous thrusting could send me toppling over!
For some, it may be helpful to hold onto a headboard or rail, rather than leaning on your arms. Doggy style can also cause a rush of blood to the head, so you may wish to be extra careful if you’re prone to migraine and blackouts.
That’s it from me for this post, Did you try the Doggy Style position? Leave a comment below or read more sex position reviews!
Want to spice up your love life even more? Check out our free Guide to BDSM here!
Until next time.
Stay safe & have fun,
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