All of my kinky posts, all in one wondferful little place.
- How To Channel Your Inner Dom: Building Confidence In DominanceYou don’t need to be harsh, cold, or intimidating to be Dominant. Here’s how to lead with authority, not performance.
- On Slave Training & Performative BDSMWhat is true submission, and what is performative BDSM? In this post I take on slave training and performing BDSM, and why I opted out of both.
- Why You Should Ignore The BDSM Experts (As Told By A BDSM “Expert”)There are lots of knowledgeable people, but there might not be any “experts” in our community.
- Locking Eyes, Losing Control: How To Eye Fuck For Better BDSMEye contact can be polite, or it can be incendiary. Learn how to use a gaze to tease and challenge, and turn a simple stare into a game of desire.
- Reader’s Questions: Kink, Polyamory… And Having Two Husbands?Many misunderstand kink and polyamory. In this post, I unpack how communication, consent, and hierarchy create fulfilling and safe connections.






