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Rating: 4 out of 5.

 NB. The language in the book is oriented towards heterosexual couples. However, to make these sex positions enjoyable for all, I will be using gender-neutral language in the appropriate sections below. 

Hello Lovelies and welcome to our next sex position review! 

So without further ado, let’s check out the next position – Crossed Lovers!

Why This Position:

Crossing the legs of the receiving partner can tighten the vaginal canal, increasing pleasure and stimulation for both partners.

Assume The Position:

The receiving partner lays on their back with their legs raised and crossed in front of them while the penetrating partner leans in and enters them. If that doesn’t work for you, try again with the receiving partner’s ankles locked behind the penetrating partner’s neck.  

A minimalist line drawing of two characters in the crossed lovers sex position

His Perspective

On first try, this one is another no: Elena’s feet crossed in front of me feels like a kind of dick barricade and I’m not loving that. This is supposed to be a fun and sexy position? It doesn’t feel fun or sexy – I can’t get close enough for it to feel fun or sexy!

Then we tried with Elena’s feet crossed over my shoulders and oh, hello! It feels deeper, tighter, and it’s taking all of my strength not to bust in thirty seconds flat. I love the depth, the warmth, the sensations, the eye contact. Elena’s reactions to my every thrust as well are only going to encourage my own. This is hot — possibly too hot! 

Her Perspective

As soon as Levi pressed against my calves, I knew this wasn’t the hot sex position it was supposed to be — I felt blocked off from him, with one calf was being crushed against the other, and I felt like he was trying to help me with trapped wind more than he was trying to get me off. He does feel bigger, which I can only put down to the crossed legs thing, but it feels like a small win for the moderate discomfort developing in my knees and lower legs. 

Then we tried with my ankles crossed behind Master Levi’s neck, and it’s not the same sensation, but what it lacks in tightness, it more than makes up for in depth! Now he doesn’t feel bigger — he feels longer, and I am not complaining one bit!

One thing: we can’t go too mad with this position. It does bring Master Levi in deeper, which means that with too much… ahem… enthusiasm, my cervix will be in for a hard time. I do enjoy it — especially with the added eye contact and kissing — but gently!  

Overall Verdict

With my feet crossed in front of Master Levi, we both agreed that it wasn’t doing a whole much for either of us. With my ankles crossed behind his neck though? We’re both giving it a 5/5!

So we agreed, ⅘ overall — but you’ll probably want to skip the first idea and go straight for the second! 

Special Considerations

Although there’s not too much to hold or do in this position, we both felt that a small cushion under the receiving partner’s hips/lower back might help, especially if you’re prone to sciatica or lower back pain. Take it slow, kiss, talk and don’t rush — there’s a lot to love about this position, and the best ones aren’t worth rushing! 

Until next time.

Stay safe & have fun,

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