Ten Shades & Me

Last week, I read fellow blogger Average Kinky Guy’s blog post, about sexual fantasies. It got me thinking, about fantasies, and how mine may (or may not) have changed over the years. Get ready, because in this post I am going to be sharing with you my top three sexual fantasies – from both then and now! 

My Top Three Sexual Fantasies Then

1. A Gang Bang In The Woods

On the way home from my college there was a woodland area and we were banned from going there. even with friends, just in case there were some unsavoury characters lurking in the woods. That kind of weighed on my mind though – like, I almost hoped I would meet some such characters in the woods! I hoped I would encounter groups of boys, and they would tie me up and force me to perform oral sex on them. I was young and naive back then though, so I didn’t understand that that was a thing in porn – until I did! 

2. A Sex Slave In The Harbour

This is one of those very specific fantasies, but it’s still hot! I was briefly involved with a boy who lived on a canal boat on Bristol docks, and I thought how it would be to be kept as his sex slave onboard a canal boat with bustling city life going on around us. I never actually mentioned that fantasy to him, but in hindsight, I probably should have!

3. My Crush’s Pet

I was madly in love with a half-Spaniard, Jack, for a long time. Jack had mousey hair and dark brown eyes that I could lose myself in time and time again. Jack was hypnotic, in almost everything he did, he was also playful and that made me fall for him, even when I didn’t want to. I was mad about the things Jack would do with me, or have me do for him. I wanted to be his sex slave, his pet, basically. I wanted him to call me a “good girl”, even if, back then, I didn’t realty understand why. I still am into pet play, but at least I understand it now! 

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My Top Three Fantasies Now

1. A Holiday Souvenir

For many years I have enjoyed annual family trips to Cornwall, but after more than two decades of them they’ve become quite monotonous for me. One way to spice them up for me would be to hook up with another couple at the on-site bar and join them back at their caravan for a night of passion. Being bisexual (and very much loving the sweet taste of a woman’s arousal!) I imagine that the wife and I would enjoy one another’s company, with the husband likely waking in the morning to discover us enjoying one another again for breakfast. There’s another variation to this – I would love to be shared, orally, by a couple. I think there is something in me that loves pleasing couples, rather than being jealous and trying to get between them! 

2. The Subject (A Longstanding Fantasy!)

Wouldn’t it be hot be well and truly seen? No more secrets, no more hiding or awkward conversations about those weird little things that turn us on, just finally and completely understood? Well, my brain certainly seems to think so! This fantasy takes a sort of medical play roleplay/ mad scientist vibe, but with an objectifying twist. There could be some sensation play, temperature play, edging, forced orgasms… I could go on. What makes this one so weird is that there needs to be some kind of auditorial note-taking of me: my brain digs the total loss of control that sends me so deeply into subspace.  

3. The Girl Next Door

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4. A Sub Hunt

No, not hunting for submarines! A sub hunt in this sense is hunting for submissives – I just love the idea of this adrenaline-packed game of hide and seek! I’ve actually done it to some sense, albeit it was just the two of us and it was very watered down, lest someone called the authorities! I live near a woodlands though and the idea of running and hiding and having to evade capture, and the heart-in-my-throat feeling of being mere inches away from capture. What if it was a group situation, where there was no guarantee it would be your partner who captures you? What about “cheating”, say, the Doms have drones with cameras? What happens if you’re captured, will you come quietly (ha!) or be able to plea for your release? There are oh so many possibilities, and that’s what makes this one so hot 😉 

Final Thoughts

Looking at my fantasies from back then versus now, the one thing I think they demonstrate is how I’ve come to be more aware of myself, of what I like and want and am. I’m not so fresh-faced and keen to explore anymore, I know who I am now and know what I stand for. I think that’s really sexy in its own way – I’m not naive anymore, I know now that I am a challenge to some, and I’m not afraid to be that challenge for those who enjoy it!

Until next time.

Stay safe & have fun,

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