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Not so long ago, I was inspired by a post by fellow blogger Pooja in which she detailed out a day in her life as a Social Media Manager. Although very interesting, it also had me thinking about my own readers, and then I wondered – wouldn’t it be good to do something similar for my life as a live-in BDSM submissive?
First things first, let’s start with an important disclaimer: Each relationship is different, and so as such how one BDSM relationship looks will vary greatly from another. My relationship with Master Levi is not as “intense” as perhaps some people would like or would want, and that’s fine. If you want a more intense dynamic, create it, or if you want less (or even not at all), you can do that too! This is, after all, only what has worked for us 🙂
At this time, my life works on a bi-weekly rota, divided into “Week A” and “Week B”. The reason for this is family commitments, who we see on alternating weeks.
I asked Alexa to pick a number between 1-14 (to reflect the 14 days) and she picked 12 – Friday, Week B. So, that’s what I’ll be writing about today.
8:00 – It’s time to get up and get ready for the day ahead. I start my day with a simple self-care routine: wash my body and face, clean my teeth, apply a light perfume and pop some ear studs in. I’m not restricted in my clothing choices (as long as it’s clean and tidy) and I’m permitted to wear underwear.
08:30 – Time for breakfast! I alternate between pancakes with apple and sultana or granola with yogurt. I also enjoy a cup of English breakfast tea with my breakfast. Once I’ve finished, I take our dog, Huxley, outside and give him his breakfast.
09:00 – Blog work time! This is when I’m at my desk, working on my posts for the week. I do on average 12 hours of blog work a week, split over 7 days, with two-hour stints on weekdays.
10:45 – Morning Check-In – This is where I tick off any of my completed tasks on the Obedience app, for example my morning self-care and eating breakfast. It used to be that I would neglect myself and put my work first, so Master sees it important to reward me for putting myself first instead.
11:00 – Bedroom tidy. This is when I take my mug out, tidy our bedroom and make the bed.
11:30 – Dog walk – Time to head down the park and get some fresh air and exercise, for both Huxley and me.
13:00 – Lunchtime! Fridays are treat days, so I’m permitted to order something from a restaurant of my choice. My favourites include a local bakery (I always treat myself to a slice of bread pudding!) or shrimp bao buns with pineapple bubble tea.
14:00 – Nap time! No, but really, a well-rested submissive is a happy, productive submissive. Master always makes sure to take care of his girl 🙂
I check in on Obedience again when I wake up, and mark off the stuff I’ve done. Some of it is worth points, and points mean rewards for me!
15:00 – It’s housework time. I get one point on Obedience per three chores done, and I have a to-do list which I keep on Google calandar. Master doesn’t believe in setting me chores to do as he finds that too infantising. He prefers I manage the home myself instead, and rewards me for a job well done.
17:00 – Time for a cuppa! I like to check in with my Slowly penpals while I enjoy a nice mug of breakfast brew.
18:00 – Dog walking with Master Levi! Alright, so, there’s always an undertone that he’s taking both his dog and his bitch for a walk, but hey, Doms are gonna Dom, amirite? I enjoy this time with him, it’s kind of like a ritual of the start of our evening together.
19:00 – Dinner time! Master normally likes to cook and so I let him, though tonight is steak night and he loves how well I can cook it. I don’t personally like steak, it seems to be too rich for me, so it’s a grilled chicken breast for me instead. I also buy us some mini black forest cheesecakes for dessert – you can’t say I don’t know how to treat my man! 😉
The dog gets to enjoy his dinner at the same time, too.
20:30 – Time for my evening fitness – I take a few hours here for pilates, meditation, positive affirmations and to journal. A healthy submissive is healthy in mind and in body, and a good Dominant encourages a submissive to part-take in activities that would make them more pleasing to their Dominant. Master and I use Embrace, the shared journal app. Here I am expected to write about any thoughts, feelings, concerns, fantasies, desires etc.
22:30 – After a quick wash I slip into my pyjamas and join Master to relax in the lounge. Despite popular theory, Master doesn’t like me to wear short or skimpy outfits in the lounge (such as short nightwear with nothing underneath), he prefers that I be modest and comfortable. There can be an exception here, however, in that sometimes Master will want me for sex on the sofa. If this is to happen, I am to stand, strip, and then allow him to dictate how he wishes to have me.
Master also doesn’t require me to kneel on the floor. I have sofa priveleges, like a good pet 😉
00:30 – Evening self-care and bed – It’s time to wash my face (and, potentially my body, again), clean my teeth, take my pill and get into bed. Before I turn in, I check in on Obedience for one last time, marking off all of the things that I have done from the day. On a Friday night I don’t usually sleep until closer to 2AM – a guilty confession: I like to stay up for an hour and scroll through Youtube Shorts!
And there you have it! Subtle enough that it’s still there, but not so kinky that nothing else gets done 😉
Until next time!
Stay safe & have fun,
That’s it from me for this post. What does a day look like in your BDSM relationship, if you have one? Leave a comment below or read more of my kink & BDSM posts!
Until next time.
Stay safe & have fun,
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