It’s not Netflix & Chill without the hot seat.

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 NB. The language in the book is oriented towards heterosexual couples. However, to make these sex positions enjoyable for all, I will be using gender-neutral language in the appropriate sections below. 

Hello Lovelies and welcome to our next sex position review! 

Not so long ago, Master and I purchased a book of sex positions from Lovehoney. The idea was two-fold: to give us some new hot sex positions to try, but also to give me something to write about and share on my blog. As a disabled person, some sex positions can be trickier than others. So we wanted to share with you which sex positions rocked our world, and which ones were dropped from it! 

So without further ado, let’s check out the next position – Hot Seat!

Why This Position:

This position puts the receiving partner very firmly in control. Whether facing forward or backwards, the receiving partner decides the speed, the depth, the lot. Arguably, in this position, it could be argued that the receiving partner is actually the giver! 

Assume The Position:

The giving partner sits on a chair or similar and the receiving partner sits on their lap, with their feet on the seat, then penetrates themselves on the giving partner’s penis. From here, the receiving partner can control the speed and depth. 

You can also try variations of this position, for example, facing away from the giving partner, leaning forwards or backwards or putting your feet down. Have fun with it! 

Important: For safety’s sake, make sure the seat you use for this position is not likely to roll or slide from beneath you. Do not let yourselves be the next embarrassing sex story in the ER!

 

His Perspective

Alright, first of all this is not a new position for us, but my little lady demanded we do it again anyway because “we weren’t reviewing it last time”. So here we are guys, fucking in the name of science. 

I’m not complaining about that, by the way. Absolutely not, I’m just saying — Elena is mischief! 

Second, Elena loves doing this — she even bought “naughty nighties” to wear in the lounge because of it. If your lady loves fucking on the furniture as much as mine does… good luck! 

That said, I absolutely love this position too, and I don’t think it’s so much that something lines up just right as just…  everything about it! With Elena on my lap, grinding the life out of me on date night? Well, it would take a man with balls of steel not to like it! 

Her Perspective

Honestly, Master Levi’s thoughts on this one… called out or what?! Yes, I like it, but he shouldn’t be so damned attractive. It’s not my fault I want to have him just as soon as I see him! 

The instructions say to use a chair, but the only chair we have is my desk chair — which is quite thin and would give me nowhere for my feet — or our folding wooden dining chairs, which would be uncomfortable. So we adopted the US Marine Corps’ attitude (but not really) of “improvise, adapt, overcome” and utilised the sofa instead. 

Master forgot to mention that we also bought a “shag sheet” — a waterproof blanket that lives in the lounge and gets thrown on the sofa before we get freaky on it — he also forgot to mention the bottle of lube intentionally stored in the ottoman stool. Particularly if your chosen seat is one your guests sit on sometimes, having a shag sheet helps to avoid any awkward conversations!

Alright, let’s talk about this position. 

Absolutely I know what works for me, but in the name of science, I wanted to try the other things Lovehoney recommended and… yeah, the first one — with my feet on the seat — was a “no”. It wasn’t good for him and it wasn’t good for me. There was no intimacy between us, just knees. Not good.   

So then we did our default, with my shins on the seat, and yeah… we know that works. It’s naughty in a way but I was an equestrian for thirteen years, so it’s an ultra-fun rising trot for me — if you know, you know! 

As one last part of our test we did also try with me facing away from Master and with my feet on the floor. Suffice to say there was no coming back from the edge, for either of us! 

Overall Verdict

Let’s be real, we bought clothing and equipment for this position, what more evidence do you need for “it works for us!” We don’t call it “Hot Seat”, we call it the more colloquial “Netflix & Chill”. But whatever you call it, it gets a full 5/5 from us! 

Special Considerations

None really that we can think of, because you can set the speed and depth that works for you both. This position probably isn’t for someone with no use of their lower limbs, but if you can find a way to bring a hoist into your fun and games? The world is your oyster! 

That’s it from me for this post, Did you try the Hot Seat position? Leave a comment below or read more sex position reviews!

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Until next time.

Stay safe & have fun,

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