Are you looking for a friendly, kink-aware person to talk to about your desires, questions, or uncertainties — without judgement, pressure, or clinical analysis? Then you’ve come to the right place.
Why Work With Me?
- Two decades of experience in the BDSM community
- Founder of one of Bristol’s most popular munches
- Top contributor on the Lovehoney Forum (GASM Award Winner 2024 & 2025)
- Disability advocate with lived experience of accessibility in intimacy
- Well known (and loved) for my friendly, approachable personality
As A Kink-Aware Intimacy Coach, I Can Help You…
- … discover where you might fit into BDSM
- … work out what your fetishes are
- … embrace your kinks
- … find your next purchase
- … introduce BDSM to your relationship
- … create a fun, healthy BDSM relationship
- … plan your own playroom!
- And more
What I Can’t Do
I cannot…
- … diagnose you with an ailment or addiction
- … “cure” you (if your BDSM thoughts are causing you distress, I strongly suggest speaking to a qualified therapist)
- … suggest medications to improve your sex life (please speak to your doctor about those)
- … help with matters related to mental health, like sexual abuse or trauma (again, these require a clinical professional)
What I Will Do
- Listen empathetically and non-judgementally
- Treat you with respect and sincerity, regardless of your kinks
- Treat you as a peer, not a patient
- Treat your information with the strictest confidentiality and discretion.
- Offer advice and resources to the best of my ability
- Help you move forward at a pace that feels safe and comfortable for you
What I Won’t Do
- Sext with you
- Flirt with you
- Humiliate you/tell you what to do (become your Domme)
- Engage in one-to-one conversations that are not aimed at helping you
- Promote or condone abuse or non-consensual acts
- Encourage or facilitate the end of a relationship
- Continue engagement with email addresses that have become manipulative, abusive or disrespectful towards me, my readers or my blog.
How Do You Run Your Coaching?
All of my coaching is delivered one-to-one via email, twice per week (two emails each way, four emails in all).
Each week, you’ll receive thoughtful, personalised guidance tailored specifically to your situation, rather than generic advice. This may include:
- Suggestions for exploring your kinks
- Communication strategies
- Safety guidance
- Product recommendations
- Reflection exercises (to help you better explore your kinky self)
- Reassurance and validation (where necessary)
How Long Will I Have To Wait?
I aim to respond to all emails within two working days, though responses may be slower during holidays or other busy times. Thank you for your patience and understanding.
How Much Does Coaching Cost?
My coaching is charged at a rate of £20/week — less than that Indian takeaway you were planning, but packed with just as much spice!
Please note: I reserve the right to cancel my service at any time if my boundaries are not respected.
You don’t have to figure your kinks out alone. Whenever you’re ready, I’m here to help you.
Ready to explore your kinky self today? Go ahead and book your week with me!
1 Week Email-based Kink Coaching (£20)
Questions? Drop me an email at tenshadesandme@gmail.com!
I look forward to working with you!
Disclaimer: This service is coaching and peer support only and is not a substitute for medical, psychological, or legal advice. For professional guidance, please consult the relevant bodies.
