Our Mission

Ten Shades & Me set off with one very simple mission in mind, we wanted to help normalise the perceptions that people have of BDSM relationships. At first glance, we seem like your normal, everyday couple, and that’s mostly because we are. All kinky people are, a vast majority of us don’t dress or act differently in public.

Ever since Fifty Shades Of Grey, there has been a lot of harmful stigma about those of us who choose to live in BDSM relationships. Many people think that Dominants are abusers and submissives are coerced and kept against our will – that just isn’t the case, and we hope that by sharing some insights (as well as lots of hot and fun tips) we can help you see BDSM relationships in a whole new light.

Hugs & kinky cuddles,

Matt & Helen xx