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Author: Helen

Hi there! My name is Helen and I am a passionate writer with more than 15 years of experience in the kink & BDSM community, who has appeared on Get Me Giddy and Gawker.com. In my free time I enjoy cooking, swimming, gardening, listening to music and spending time with my husband and dog.

The House Elf

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December 7, 2023December 7, 2023 ~ Helen ~ Leave a comment

As I dance on the dawn of my first steps into BDSM slave life, I share the inner turmoil between a a slave and a "good girl".

A Stupid Mistake

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December 6, 2023December 6, 2023 ~ Helen ~ Leave a comment

After an experience with my husband I look at why some people correct others, and how to can do it politely.

Feeling People

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December 5, 2023December 6, 2023 ~ Helen ~ Leave a comment

No, not THAT kind of feeling people.

Coming Undone

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December 3, 2023December 3, 2023 ~ Helen ~ Leave a comment

Overcoming my irrational fear of nuclear war, and receiving a spanking that I deserved.

What’s New With Ten Shades & Me: November 2023

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December 2, 2023December 2, 2023 ~ Helen ~ 1 Comment

What's new with Ten Shades & Me in November 2023? Come catch up on all of our latest gossip here!

Of Partners, Pets & Problems

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December 1, 2023December 1, 2023 ~ Helen ~ 1 Comment

Love and strength in an uncertain world.

Have Your Say: Should I Bring The Rambles Back?

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November 28, 2023November 28, 2023 ~ Helen ~ Leave a comment

Should I bring my rambles back?

Lessons in BDSM: What Makes A Good Dominant, Really?

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November 24, 2023November 24, 2023 ~ Helen ~ 1 Comment

What makes a good Dominant really, and what are the qualities that you might see when you find one? Enjoy this insightful list.

Why The Woman You Want, Doesn’t Want You

November 16, 2023November 16, 2023 ~ Helen ~ Leave a comment

The writer discusses the importance of mutual respect in dating and relationships.

Sex Toy Review: Lovehoney Power Play Rechargeable Wand Vibrator

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November 10, 2023November 10, 2023 ~ Helen ~ Leave a comment

Reviewing the Lovehoney Power Play Rechargeable Wand Vibrator. Is it really as powerful as it proclaims?

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