About Me

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My name is Helen, I live in Bristol, UK and I was born in 1988 with arrested borderline hydrocephalus, spina bifida, ataxia and a mild low-tone hearing loss, along with depression and anxiety. In 2001 I also developed Chronic Regional Pain Syndrome as a result of a badminton injury, and later again in my foot and knee from a swimming and walking injury, respectively.

While I left school with good grades, I struggled to find work because I didn't need some of the more "normal" adaptations made for disabled people (like a wheelchair-friendly desk or a hearing loop) - but I did need a manager who understands that I get good days and bad days with my chronic pain - which very few companies do. One of my biggest struggles in my quest to find employment was the types of jobs usually being offered to disabled people. I was offered jobs such as shoe shining or shelf-stacking, all of which are physically demanding on a broken body and not at all mentally rewarding for me. Disabled people may have a broken body, but we are still sharp in the mind!

I was passed from pillar to post and eventually I was forced to give up, resigning myself to a life on benefits and serving my working husband as his housewife. I started to write in a journal after a relapse in my mental health and my husband nicknamed me "Jane Austen" because of the length of some of my entries - he also suggested that I set up a blog! 

On this blog you will find a variety of kinky topics and some fun ideas to spice up your bedroom, regardless of your physical ability. You can also take a browse of my other writings, read my rambles and prompted posts or take a read of my guest posts elsewhere. I aim to deliver my content in a relatable, friendly way and using something else that I'm best known for - my quick wit and wicked sense of humour! 

I hope my blog will inspire you and if there is anything you would like me to cover sometime, please do drop me an email!

Enjoy your visit!

With love,

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