Free BDSM Resources: BDSM Session Planning Sheet

Good evening Twisties,

It's finally here, the moment you've been waiting for. I've been taunting and teasing about this beauty and, after a minor hiccup with formatting, I finally have my first free printable for you to enjoy!

Hands up, how many subbies get tasked with preparing the room for a session? How many of you lovely people waltz into the room with all intentions and purposes of preparing something amazing that your Sir or Mistress will love when they get home from a had day in the office, but then freeze - how do you know what your Sir or Mistress is in the mood for?

Often times, communication in a BDSM relationship is super amazing, and really it is, it amazes some people just how open Wolfie and I are with one another. While we generally have a baseline understsnding on one another's moods, what about those times when we don't have a chance to discuss what kinky proclivities we might want to get up to ahead of time? How can you have that discussion and still meet all of the other demands?

Enter the Session Planning Sheet.

Last Friday should have been a Kinky Fuckery Friday but wound up being more of a Thank Fuck It's Over Friday instead. Determined not to give in and not to let the evening go to waste, I resorted in creating a sort of worksheet which I planned to leave on the bed for Wolfie to look at. In between a visit from my mother which was dumped on me rather unexpectedly and a pre-planned call from Wolfie's best friend, I was determined to find a way to keep communication open prior to the the events that were to follow in the evening. It enabled us to have the conversation that we needed to have, even whilst I was entertaining my mother in the other room.

Maybe for you it's not a surprise visit from your parents (or in-laws) but perhaps friends or young children around instead. Whatever the source, curious ears can really put a dampener on those all-important conversations. Having a sheet that your partner can fill out and pop away in an agreed place might be just the ticket and then, when it comes to preparing to serve Master or Mistress, you (or your partner) will know exactly what to do!

When I presented the sheet, I had no idea what the reception was going to be. I half anticipated that Wolfie would see it as some silly project or like a piece of homework. It was unlikely to be a hit, I decided, but I'd check up later and see how he felt.

"What's that your printing?"

"I'll show you in a second, it was an idea I had to keep communication open, given that it seems we won't have a moment to ourselves after work ahead of our shenanigans tonight!"

Wolfie stooped to pick up the print-out and began to read. Oh boy..

"Session planning sheet... I like this! That's a bloody good idea, Kitten."

I offered to print off the finalised draft but Wolfie had already made off with the rough draft copy. "I'll do this once I've finished work" was the last I heard, and with that, I left him to it.

If you're curious, you can see a copy of the sheet that I presented Wolfie with here:

I was going to simply distribute a shareable file on my blog, but then I remembered that many of you won't have exactly the same toys as what we do! With that in mind, I created a slightly different version for my lovely readers here:

The version that I have created for you lovely people has 12 lines for your Dominant to fill in ahead of your session, and a space for them to allow you to choose a toy or three, if they're feeling generous. By having this list, it gives you the guidance you seek and crave to be able to please them, safe in the knowledge that you are doing as instructed and are no longer acting on a whim. Maybe you are a Dominant with a submissive partner? In that case, you can leave a completed copy of the list for your partner as some sexy instructions to follow!

Of course, if you're feeling creative, you may choose to recreate this list featuring your own toys and implements. Maybe it's even easier to share it digitally for your Dominant partner to complete online? Use the one I've created for you or come up with your own version, whatever works for you. The really important thing is that this sheet was set up as a template to help you communicate and to keep your kinky plans running smoothly - regardless of what obstacles try and stand in your way!

Alright Twisties, I hope this sheet helps you and I hope you get up to all kinds of adventures over this weekend. If you give this sheet a go, please do let me know your feedback in the comments. I'd love to hear from you!

Until next time,

Stay safe & have fun,

Helen xx